Going through a divorce can be hard for many people. The sense of loss and change can be a big challenge for an individual to go through. This can be compounded if there are children involved. But, after the dust settles and time has healed some of the pain, most people will begin to think about getting married again if they find someone special to be with. There are many things to think about for someone who is in that situation. Here are some suggestions to help make the idea of getting married again better the second time around.
FIND CLOSURE FROM THE PAST
It will be difficult to join any new relationship if you are still working through the feelings you have from the last relationship. Perhaps you blame yourself or you ex-spouse for the problems you faced during the marriage, but maybe it is time to accept the fate of that relationship and let the blame fall to the side. Finding peace over the old relationship can be difficult, but allowing time to pass, journaling, talking with a counselor or working to improve yourself can help heal the wounds. Finding a way to bring the past relationship to a close is key to move on with someone new.
LEARN NEW SKILLS
Often times in relationships that don’t work out there is blame to be shared among both parties. Those reasons may be an indication of behavior that needs to change in you as well. Maybe it is improving your communication, standing up for yourself or making quicker decisions. One of the ways you can work to improve those aspects in relationships is to learn new things. Maybe it is reading books, picking up a new hobby, or planning an international trip. These experiences will help get you out of your comfort zone and challenge you. If you can force yourself to be uncomfortable it shows that you are not afraid of change and self-discovery, both of which occur in a healthy relationship.
SEEK LEGAL ADVICE
Another strategy to consider implementing so that you can remarry in confidence is to get legal counsel when the relationship is serious enough for a title change. If you were to work with an experienced legal team to provide the guidance you may need for your situation, you can enter the legal union with greater confidence. This may mean implementing a pre-nuptial agreement tailored to your specific situation before the marriage takes place. This could mean talking to your potential spouse about your legal concerns and having an open dialogue about it. Regardless, there are legal aspects to consider when you are contemplating remarrying.
At Andrews & Arbenz our goal is to provide our clients with the maximum amount of support that we can during a divorce or helping someone get married understand their legal rights. We have faithfully served the residents of the south Puget Sound with excellence. We strive to advocate, support and educate our clients so they can make the best decisions available to them either during their divorce or leading up to a marriage union. If you need legal counsel and are seeking help from a Gig Harbor divorce attorney, consider reaching out to Andrews & Arbenz for help and support.